How to Be a Functional Adult and Not Fail While Trying
It's funny because even this title could sound a little bit obvious. The fact is that a lot of people out there, that are supposed to be functional adults, are not. But there is nothing to be ashamed. No one truly knows how to be a real adult, and isn't something easy to know. If you came here to find a manual or a formula, there isn't. We’re just improvising and hoping for the best.
The point is, whether we like it or not, everyone grows. We can be childish sometimes, have fun and avoid some responsibilities, but just for a few moments. However, there are a couple things we can identify as part of this long stage of our lives and, if we recognize them, we can be able to get closer to what a real adult life is.
Things That Identify a Functional Adult
There are a lot of factors inside our minds, and ways we should act when we're adults. We're supposed to be more resilient, more capable of facing responsibilities and any issue. And at the end, that is all about this growing thing.
However, let’s take a closer look and break down what this means. First, all the mental and emotional changes we have to experiment. We are now adults. We have to live our emotions to their fullness, but make decisions with our rational part. Even further, we need to be capable of taking constructive criticism to create conscience of ourselves, and change things that are prejudicial to us and our beloved ones.
Besides, an adult must look for equal relationships, and be independent in major parts of his life. A grown human being is capable of taking actions to improve, face or solve circumstances and problems instead of waiting for a miracle or someone else’s decision on what to do. We need to understand that there are so many things that aren't our fault, but are our responsibility anyway, and they required to be faced as well.
We’re able to have realistic goals and establish strategies to achieve them, to build a professional career we can be proud of, to accept our bodies, to face our anxieties and control our emotions. We need to learn to manage our money and our time properly, and how to handle bad times. Being adult is acquiring a kind of freedom which brings responsibilities. It’s not easy to let our youth behind and carry on by taking care of ourselves, but we’re together in the struggle.